Chocolate donuts and things my bf does.
He buys me flowers.
He never says no to things that would make me happy.
He cooks really well.
He respects when I go through phases of low libido due to burnout or job related stress.
He buys me things I like in my favorite colors (they don’t need to be expensive, even €2 is enough).
If I feel like I can’t work, he works alone.
He cleans the house without me having to say anything.
He prepares meals and snacks for my work.
He makes me breakfast almost every day when he is not working.
He signed up for the gym because I told him I wanted us to go together.
There is no 50/50 in our relationship, financially or otherwise. It varies depending on each person’s capacity at the time (40/60, 80/20, 10/90, etc.).
He doesn’t watch porn and he has female friends (mostly queer).
He is a feminist to his core and speaks up when he sees injustice happening.
He sends me messages during the day to show that he is thinking about me.
He shows interest when I want to talk about things that concern me (whether hobbies or emotional/psychological topics).
He doesn’t judge me for watching kids’ shows (winx, totally spies, barbie in the dreamhouse) while I’m drawing.
He accepts ALL of me and he is patient during our conversations even if we disagree.
He never judges what I wear. He has never made negative comments, even about my most "provocative" outfits.
Ι could keep going until the list reaches 100 or more. But the point is that you shouldn’t tolerate anything less than this from a man. I see a lot of posts here, and it makes me sad that there are women who settle for crumbs. You are beautiful, intelligent, and capable of standing on your own, without some idiot bothering you over the bare minimum. If a man doesn’t ADD to your life, then he’s either taking away from it or he’s a burden.