My cousin (32f) lives with her boyfriend (30m) and another roommate in a house where they all split the rent. They all make a comfortable living, she makes a little over $100k a year, and lives in a state with no income tax. My cousin has recently started asking me to borrow money. She’s had a history of spending more than she can afford and putting all of her expenses on credit cards. Within the last month, she has asked to borrow between $100-$300 on 3 separate occasions. Each time, I’ve told her I can’t lend her money because my wife and I just moved across the country and are still paying off our moving expenses until my company’s reimbursement check hits.
I’ve grown frustrated about this because she doesn’t care about the financial situation I am in and continues to ask. Each time, she makes up a story about why she needs money. The most recent one was that she had to pay $3000 in taxes this year and as she was transferring funds to her main account, the bank locked her account in case of fraud. If this was anyone besides my cousin, I would believe them but she is a pathological liar. A few days ago, she told her mom that she needs money because her debit card info got stolen while she was at the airport and they froze her account.
I called her sister and asked if she was also receiving these requests for money and to my surprise, I’m not the only one. She has asked almost everyone in my family. 3 different cousins, my aunt and uncle, and even old coworkers that shes not even that close with!
The last time I told her I would not be sending her money, I asked why her boyfriend can’t help her out. She told me that she didn’t want to get into another argument about her not being able to budget her money well enough so she didn’t ask him. I’m at the point where I’m thinking of telling her boyfriend about what she’s been doing. She’s clearly not honest with him about how much their lifestyle is affecting their expenses and I’m tired of her asking my family for money. They are all tired of it too, but are not as comfortable confronting the issue as I am. So, WIBTA if I reached out to her boyfriend to let him know she is spending too much and harassing my family for money?