u/Amenian

I had been living with my girlfriend for the past 4 years and she broke up with me a week ago because she couldn't handle dealing with how ADHD made me unreliable. I sincerely tried to be, the intent was always there, but I simply don't have the strategies and systems to do so. I was only diagnosed about a year ago, and my therapist really didn't give me any advice on how to manage it outside of Vyvanse. Now I'm in an empty apartment without furniture and lost my entire social circle since I let her become my life and am completely spinning and drowning in huge emotions that I don't know how to process.. Don't even know what I'm even interested in anymore. I've realized that I have to be responsible for my own research and management of my condition, but I'm pretty lost. Does anybody have any resources or hacks they use to stay reliable and handle the invisible labor that normal people seem to be able to do?

I recently went through a really bad breakup of a long term relationship where I found myself losing not just the relationship, but my place to live and my entire social circle. I'm coming out of it realizing I lost my identity and need to get out of this house and meet people again. The problem is....I really don't know how. I'm turning 50 in August and have to rediscover what I'm actually interested in all over again. Meetup.com seems functionally useless since it seems like all the groups are either dead, mostly dead, or are online only. I'm an introvert, but I want to break out of my shell and meet people. Any suggestions? Preferably for something that meets often?