u/Ambitious_Safe_2126

as the title says, i’m currently at LAX and it’s really gloomy here. i know turbulence happens when going through clouds and i’m anxious bc my flight (UA2210) is at night and when getting to my destination it’s also gonna be gloomy. keep checking flight radar on all the other planes, saw a plane have to try to land again i’m not sure why. maybe the gloominess? ive also gone down the rabbit hole on how planes crash and it just scares me. i dislike how it’s at nighttime so i can’t see anything or where i am. pls help tracking requested too pls

earlier today, my mom texted me something that upset me, and maybe 5 seconds after that my gf called. i wasn’t really in a good mood, so when she asked what was wrong, i said “nothing” at first. i tend to do that because in the past when i’ve tried bringing up family issues with her, i don’t feel very supported or i end up feeling worse afterward, so i usually avoid getting into it.

i’ve also previously opened up to her about my mental health and told her that at one point i felt so overwhelmed and unsupported that i even thought about calling the crisis line. i explained that i’ve been feeling pretty stuck and depressed lately, and that she’s kind of my main person i go to emotionally (even if i don’t receive anything back) but when i’ve shared that, still i didn’t really get much response or support back, which honestly made me feel even more alone and made me less likely to open up about things like my mom.

she kept asking what was wrong, so i eventually told her my mom was stressing me out but that i didn’t want to talk about it but she kept pushing for details but i didn’t say and she immediately said that i was taking things out on her.

when i tried to explain how i was feeling, the conversation escalated. i was trying to talk through it, but i felt like i couldn’t finish my thoughts without being interrupted or responded to immediately. i kept asking if i could finish what i was saying and tried to get her to just listen for a minute, but it kept turning into both of us talking over each other instead of actually hearing each other.

during the argument, i also told her “i want you to be more supportive when i’m dealing with family stuff.” in response, she said something like “well i want someone to go to my graduation.” i had said “you,” meaning i want her specifically, but she said “someone,” which made me feel kind of replaceable in the moment.

i recently got scheduled for a job orientation after being unemployed for a while. it happens to fall on the same day as her graduation trip. when i told her, she suggested i try to find another job in the meantime so i could still go with her, but i don’t feel like i can miss it because it’s an important opportunity for me.

there were also moments where i felt like the conversation was shutting down. when i asked to finish speaking, there were times she wouldn’t respond or would continue talking over me. she also hung up a few times during the argument. when that happened, i called back multiple times but she didn’t answer. i’ve told her before that hanging up or ignoring calls during conflict really bothers me, especially when i’m trying to communicate something vulnerable.

i also brought up that i feel like i’m usually one who ends up apologizing just to end arguments, and she said “yeah, so you should apologize.”

i’ll admit my tone probably wasn’t great at times as things escalated, but i also felt like i wasn’t being heard in the moment, which made me more frustrated.

is this more of a communication issue or a compatibility issue?