Hi, my partner (25) and I (25) have been together for two years. We live in separate countries and have been long distance most of our relationship. This past summer I lived in his country and enjoyed some of it, but I also felt lonely at the same time. I didn’t get along with his friends the best but I don’t think the language barrier helped. My partner visited me in my country this past December and we had a wonderful time. He gets along with my family very well. I’m not the biggest fan of my home town, but I loved it with him. It’s been four months since he left. During the first two months, I went through a career change that was very stressful, and we were barely able to talk during it. Our schedules were completely different. I am not at a different job and our schedules align again.
Now for why I’m wondering if we should break up. During these last couple months, something has switched in me. I don’t feel as emotionally connected to him anymore. He said he’s noticed to, I don’t text back as fast and I’m distant. I don’t get as excited for our calls as I used to. Honestly sometimes they feel like a chore :(. It breaks my heart because I was so in love. I’m supposed to move to his country in September and live there for a year. This was a plan we had in place to close the gap. I don’t think my heart is in it enough to move there anymore. But the other part of me is scared that I’ll regret not trying it this year with him in person. It’s just if I’m not feeling it now with the distance, is closing the gap going to change that? If I’m questioning things this much should I go? I’m really worried about wasting mine or his time. Part of me feels like he deserves someone that is all in. Any advice on how to move forward?