I truly have never dated in a worse place in my life.
I don’t know if it’s the weather or the transient nature of the people here; but something is turning people’s brains into mush here.
I lived and dated in the Midwest, East-coast, and in Europe. I feel like every time I’m talking to someone it ends in 3 ways here: ghosted, “met someone else”, or straight up stood up. This is a pattern that has just persisted for the last 4 years I’ve lived here.
Look before y’all bang on about working on myself I’ve pretty much done the “inner work”. I take care of myself, am not ugly by any means, have hobbies, work hard in my field, and blah blah blah but nothing seems to land here. Hey maybe I’m just boring; god knows !
Maybe it’s because I’m just meeting people through the apps or my condo gym or randomly on the street but in general I just seem to fall for the most unserious flaky motherfuckers I’ve ever met in my life.
Feel free to tell me I’m wrong or dumb or both I just wanted to blast this out into the universe and put my frustration into words. Guess I’m just really shook by how many bad apples I’ve picked while living here. Not to blame the place entirely I made those choices just never had been that pervasive before.