u/Ambitious-Sleep-9823

Looking to meet someone intentional about building something real, not casual or uncertain situations.

27M | Chandigarh | Forensic Photographer (Govt)

I work in forensic photography, which is a detail-heavy and responsibility-driven role. It’s taught me to value clarity, patience, and emotional steadiness — both in work and in life.

Outside of work, my life is fairly grounded. I enjoy gym, riding, photography, and slow weekends where I don’t need to be constantly doing something. I also value my own space and don’t believe in forced communication or performative relationships.

I’d describe myself as calm, observant, and a bit introspective. I don’t open up instantly, but I’m consistent once I do. I prefer honesty over impression-building and emotional clarity over mixed signals.

What I’m looking for:

Someone who is emotionally mature, stable in communication, and clear about wanting a long-term relationship rather than casual dating or confusion.

Ideally someone who has her own life, opinions, and emotional awareness — not looking for perfection, but mutual respect, effort, and consistency.

Hi everyone,

I (26M) and my ex (23F) broke up in April 2025. After the breakup, it was mostly me trying to get her back. I genuinely worked on myself during that time — I improved my lifestyle, started going to the gym, and even secured a government job. Despite all that, there was no contact from her from October 2025.

Then in December 2025, she restarted contact. From there, things were on and off.

The main situation started in February 2026:

In early Feb, she told me she wanted to try getting back together.

We met a few times and things felt good.

On 5th Feb, after drinking a little, she got emotional and said she still loves me, wants me, and said things like “please don’t leave me.” That day, we decided to take things slow and rebuild.

Then things started getting confusing:

On 14th Feb, I took her out on a date. It went fine, but when I asked her clearly if she really wanted to try again, she said yes — but also said she doesn’t feel the same way she used to.

Communication became weak. I’m an early morning person, and she said she’s busy all day and only free late at night, so we barely spoke.

On 24th Feb (my birthday), she asked me out to dinner. We met, but the conversation felt very surface-level.

Then on 28th Feb:

I asked her if we are seriously going to try (meet more, talk more, put effort).

She said on chat that she is not ready or in the mindset for a relationship.

When I called her, she said she doesn’t have time and that I’m not a priority right now — her focus is building her career (which I understand).

When I asked why she said she wanted to try in the first place, she said she “forgot her real situation in that moment.”

After that:

On 9th March (our old anniversary), she wanted to meet. I refused because it didn’t make sense to me after everything she said. This upset her.

Around 15th March, we met one last time due to some company-related formalities (we had a business together).

In that final meeting:

She said I was the one who hurt her, so I should be the one putting in more effort and tolerating her cold behavior.

I said I’m willing to try, but how can I when we barely talk and she’s not even willing to commit or say “wait for me”?

She refused to give any commitment and said things like: “What if it takes me 3–4 years to settle? I can’t keep you waiting.”

I told her that decision should be mine — whether I want to wait or not — but she still didn’t agree.

Before leaving, she said: “Tum batana next kab milna hai.”

After that:

I texted her asking when we should meet next — she said it’s difficult but she’ll try.

A few days later, I sent her the final company paperwork — she just replied “thank you.”

No follow-up. No plan. No effort.

Since then — complete silence.

Now I’m left hanging. I don’t know:

Should I wait?

Should I reach out again?

Or should I just move on?

I also don’t want to randomly block her because it feels immature to me. At the same time, I know she might shift back to her hometown soon, and a part of me still expects that she’ll at least meet or inform me once before leaving — but I don’t even know if that’s realistic.

I feel stuck between holding on and letting go, with no real closure.

TL;DR: Ex came back after months, said she wanted to try again, showed emotional interest, then backed off saying I’m not a priority and she’s not ready. Left me hanging with no contact and no clarity on what to do next.

27M | Chandigarh. Trying my luck here