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My Kamvas 20 has finally packed it in after 5 years so I'm looking for the best value upgrade I can. I considered the Wacom Cintiq 16 but I also use my tablet as a second monitor so dont think it would be ideal. For that price range or less I'm also considering the Kamvas 22 Plus, and Kamvas 22 (Gen 3). £600 is a bit of a stretch for me but if the quality is worth it and it will last me another 5+ years then I'd consider it. Open to other recommendations too.

After struggling a lot with rejection sensitivity and the way it affects my relationships, I wrote this note to come back to when I start overthinking, to hopefully reduce the hour / days long rumination episodes.

When you assume someone has a problem with you, and there’s a chance you’re overthinking, the natural instinct is often to ask for reassurance. But constant reassurance-seeking can be exhausting for the other person (or like in my situation it can trigger their rejection sensitivies), which means we need some way to handle those emotions internally too.

Without asking for reassurance, there are 3 options:

1. Assume the worst and spiral emotionally. An assumption turns into rumination, anxiety, hypervigilance, and eventually resentment.
2. Assume the worst, but suppress it and “let it go.” This can feel like the mature option because it avoids conflict, but internally it often creates emotional insecurity and quiet resentment over time.
3. Accept uncertainty. Your brain is probably generating a negative interpretation based on past experiences, fear, and pattern recognition but that interpretation may not reflect your current reality. Instead of deciding the interpretation is true, accept that you don’t actually know. Sit with the uncertainty. Regulate first, then decide later whether there’s genuinely a problem worth addressing.

It’s clear that option 3 is the healthy option, but also the hardest. It requires self-reassurance, emotional regulation, trust, and going against what your mind wants to believe.

After choosing option 1 and 2 for far too long, I'm now working through the resentment it built up, and the unhealthy way of thinking, by learning to accept that I can exist in uncertainty.