I ( F23) Not meeting enough is ruining the relationship (him M22)
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years officially, almost 3 years emotionally exclusive.Earlier we were almost neighbours so we used to meet every single day (2years straight ). Then I shifted farther away, ( same city few kilometres away) and now because of his college, dysfunctional strict family, financial issues, and overall hectic life, we barely meet once a week, sometimes not even that, it’s only because of his studies yes mainly .
He genuinely loves me and does try in the ways he can calling, updating me, trying to make plans, reassuring me but practically, he just does not have enough time or freedom. He himself admits that in the coming college summer break we are going to spend more time as compared to now but he didn’t over promised he said after this ,life will mostly stay this hectic because of college and responsibilities.
Over time I became very resentful, emotionally lonely, and started feeling unloved because my biggest need in a relationship is quality time and closeness. We’ve had constant fights over this. He says he feels emotionally unseen too and helpless because he genuinely cannot change many of his circumstances. I would have been still fine if we would have some night stays but that didn’t happen last whole year because of his family they are controlling they exhaust him , and he says until I settles down he has no option other than listen to them . Now whenever we meet in between his college hectic schedule it’s like 2-3 hours at max .
So now I’m confused:
Is it fair to end a relationship with someone who genuinely loves you because the relationship structure and lack of time are making you unhappy? Or is this something people normally adjust to in adult relationships?