u/Altruistic-Day-8614

I have a friend who’s being unfair. She said that she’s going to be absent, but she told me that she’ll still go with me once my OJT shift is finished, and she even said that she’ll tell the HR about it. Honestly, I feel uncomfortable because it seems unfair on my part. Even though she won’t attend her duty, she still expects me to adjust for her and wait until I’m done. I’m trying my best to be responsible and complete my OJT properly, so it’s frustrating when someone acts like my time and effort are not important. I want to be understanding as a friend, but I also think there should be respect, fairness, and consideration for each other’s responsibilities.

I want to share my experience. I’m currently an OJT in a company, and I have friends who are always late. What really frustrates me is that even when I’m the one patiently waiting for them, they still act like they’re the ones being inconvenienced. For example, when we’re already at the tricycle terminal, she suddenly starts rushing and acting stressed, even though I’ve been waiting for a long time already. Sometimes, she even becomes moody or gets an attitude toward me, which honestly feels unfair because I’m not the one causing the delay.

I value friendship and I try my best to understand their situation, but it’s becoming tiring and stressful for me. As an OJT, I also want to be responsible and manage my time properly because being late can affect our image and performance in the company. I don’t want to keep tolerating this behavior if it continues to affect my mood and daily routine.

I’m starting to feel confused about what I should do. I don’t want to create conflict or hurt our friendship, but at the same time, I also want to set boundaries and prioritize my peace of mind. I think friendships should include respect for each other’s time and effort. Sometimes I feel unappreciated because even though I wait and adjust for them, I’m still the one receiving the negative attitude.

What should I do in this kind of situation? Should I talk to her honestly about how I feel, or should I stop adjusting and focus more on myself and my responsibilities?