My good friend (35F) has a 6yo daughter, and she raised her to be "strong" and "independent." When playing with other kids, her daughter always wants to boss every kid around and tell them how to play or with who to play.. in the past few years, my friend lost friendship with many mothers in the group because of her daughter's behaviour toward others.
For context: The main problem here is that the mother always and I mean Always believe her daughter and she says it in front of her: my daughter never lies, I always believe she is telling the truth.
The thing is, her daughter lies a lot!! I've witnessed her on so many occasions doing something and then denying it in front of her mom or saying different things. But it was never my place to intervene.
I try to tell her from time to time that kids lie in an innocent way, just to let her think about this option, and she always tells me, but my daughter doesn't lie.
The real problem now, and I think I should intervene to help her not screw her child's education. It's been few weeks several teachers send my friends emails telling her that her daughter has been acting up in class, not wanting to participate or do something the teacher had asked all the kids to do, and when they try to warn the girl she starts yelling at the them. For now, it has been 4 teachers who raised this concern!! My friend tried to talk to the principal about it, but the principal told her we can't tolerate this behaviour anymore and you should speak to your daughter or we will be getting the therapist to see her.
My friend went ballistic!! She took her kid out of school and is saying to everyone that the school is bad and her daughter told her none of what the teachers said is right.
Now her daughter is at home because my friend is refusing to send her back!
I want to help her and let her realise that kids lie, and her daughter is no different and that it's normal, but now the daughter knows that mommy believes whatever she says and is taking advantage of her.
What can I say?? Without her thinking, I am attacking her! She comes to me every day to vent, but I never know in the moment what to say to her to really help her