I feel like my family is judging my LDR girlfriend
TL;DR:
My LDR girlfriend is staying with my family for 2 months to attend my graduation and a family death anniversary, but I feel like my grandmother and some relatives are quietly judging and making assumptions about our relationship. I’m unsure if I’m overthinking it or if this is just normal family behavior toward young couples.
I (17M, turning 18 this year) just graduated high school and will be entering 1st year college soon. I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now.
Our plan was for her to visit and stay with us for around 2 months. The main purpose is so she can attend my graduation and also be present for my grandfather’s 1st death anniversary. Since we don’t often get to celebrate things together, we also saw it as a rare chance to spend time together before college starts and our schedules get even more hectic.
At first, everything seemed okay with my family, especially my mom. But after about a week of her staying here, I started feeling like something is “off.”
It’s hard to explain exactly, but the atmosphere at home feels different when my girlfriend is around. I sometimes feel like people are talking about us behind our backs, especially some of my relatives.
There was even a moment where I overheard my grandmother saying she wouldn’t support my studies if I ever got my girlfriend pregnant. That really stuck with me. After that, things felt more tense between us. She sometimes becomes sarcastic or says things that feel like subtle insults directed at me or my girlfriend.
There was also a moment where I heard her refer to me and my girlfriend in a way that made me uncomfortable, like she was already labeling us as if we’re “married” or rushing things, even though that’s not the case.
What frustrates me is that I feel like there’s a lot of judgment and assumptions about my relationship, even if no one is directly saying it to my face. It feels like they’re already expecting the worst just because we’re young and in a relationship.
For context, I understand my grandmother comes from a very difficult background and may have her own experiences that shape how she thinks. But it still hurts to feel like my relationship is being seen in such a negative light, especially when we’re not doing anything wrong.
Now I’m stuck between trying to respect my family and also wanting them to see my girlfriend as more than just their assumptions.
Am I just overthinking this situation, or is it normal for families to act like this when it comes to young relationships?
Would really appreciate different perspectives on this.