Hi, I just made this account so my girlfriend can’t see this post as I want honest advice from people.
I started dating my girlfriend a year ago (we are and have been long distance though it’s only a 4 hour distance so we see each other every month and sometimes twice a month). She’s my best friends sister (he and I don’t talk much anymore). Essentially some stop came out from her past and her and her brother had a fall out (and since I chose to like her that extended to me).
In any case. In her pas she was active (and I don’t mean that in a negative way but it’s the truth), whereas I wasn’t. This, at times, causes issues with one of us feeling like we’re not on the same page regarding intimacy (although it’s usually me who questions if she values the intimacy in the same way I do.
She recently moved to a different city in her state for a year (school reasons) and found it hard to make friends as a graduate student taking courses w undergrads.
She made a friendship with a guy at work who happens to be in her class. I always had a strange feeling about him, th energy was off. It started off as them sitting in class every day together, and then turned into them always walking together after class (since mid Jan). Come march we discovered that this guy followed her, liked an old post the next day, and liked another old post the day after. Mind you he’s unliked both posts. Sure it could be an accident, but to have even liked year old posts he’d have returned to the profile and on two different days seemed odd. She’s also seen him texting other girls on Snapchat in class, mind you he has a girlfriend who doesn’t attend that same school. This could be nothing. It seems strange that an undergrad student at the school for three years doesn’t have many friends in the school except a graduate student taking one class with him.
We spoke about the boundary many times. And she listensed. But it feels like there’s been no compromise. She’s moving home in may so obviously things will end there (as in her being friends with this person). I feel like I have to accept that she’s moving and that no adjustment may happen. But idk how to feel. I wonder if I should change my perspective on the situation or if I should put my foot down.
Any advice would be great. Or even a different perspective.