u/Alternative_Dream_12

I have just had a baby and it looks like me and her dad will be separated and co parenting. I am feeling extremely sad about the prospect of her having a disjointed childhood, two homes and an unstable start to life. I'm already grieving the half of her childhood I won't get to experience with her.

We loosely agreed that she would stay with her dad two days a week once she is old enough to be away from me overnight. We are contemplating getting back together but I know it will only be for her.

My question is, to anyone out there that has been brought up like this from a baby? How has it affected your life? Would you rather have your parents stay together for you? How has it affected your relationship with your parents? Is there anything you would have liked them to do? Is there anything I can do to make her childhood more comfortable in this situation?

I want my little girl to have the best life she can possibly have.

My little girl is 14 weeks and I am so so burned out. I was handling looking after her solo absolutely fine until the 4 month sleep regression hit and I just haven't been able to recover. She's out of it now but I feel like I just can't recharge. She's fairly high needs with colic that is just starting to wane.

Her dad takes her to his house for a few hours twice a week and I generally just pass out from the moment she leaves until he brings her back.

I'm so tired! Is there a time that it just got a bit easier and you felt less burned out? For context I absolutely love looking after her and every moment she's not crying is a complete joy for me. I'm just very worn out.