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Mother expects me to buy my own house at 35.

Totally stopped giving me any allowance after i graduated from poly at 21. Paid for all my expenses myself. Even have to pay her back the money for any food that she buys for me before. Paid for my own shampoo, clothes, family trip etc. She will always hound me for the money until i pay up

Then got pressured to resign at 23 after i told some people at work that i want to get a degree and can’t find a job until now. Was really lonely just taking classes at night with no social life in the afternoon. Big mistake because i managed to get an interview for a company that i like alot but i didn’t go for the interview because i wanted to volunteer for some other stuff that happened on a weekday. This was the beginning of last year before the job market went bad and i just started my part time degree. Then after that i took this part time degree and i totally not working. Failed endless interviews.

I even have to use my own money to buy the things that i never get to buy when i was young and go to the places that i never get to go to when i was young.

I feel like the working world is quite scary. My supervisor can secretly pressure me to resign without anyone knowing and it’s so easy to be pressured to resign. Some more he’s 30+ and i am 22. I remember after i push the chair to the floor, my team mate didn’t know that he was pressuring me and even told my supervisor about it and told him that i broke down and push the chair to the floor and i can see my supervisor smirking after he heard it and my department manager start having team meeting every week afterwards.

Then there is this senior that care alot and he give me the death stare after he saw me push the chair to the floor and i texted him about what happened afterwards and his reply was “hmm since you left the company, stop brooding over it. Just move on with a positive mindset”. Then i lost myself and totally forgot what happened and even ask him to be my referee but he said “sorry i think i better don’t be your referee”. I only realised what happened
one year later when i start feeling more in touch with myself

I feel like it would be better if i went to uni and entered society at 24 compared to entering at 20 right after poly

When i was in poly, my mum will keep telling me that she will make me go out to work right after poly and she won’t let me go to uni because i am a girl and girls shouldn’t study so much

Then in my final year of poly, she start forcing me to find a full time job. That time i haven’t even graduate and it’s still my final sem.

I managed to find a job right before i grad then initially she wanted me to put my pay into her bank account but the hr don’t allow. Then she started making me pay for everything. I had to pay back for my shampoo, clothes, even when she buy food for me i also need to pay her back the amount for the food then i can eat. I give her 15% of my salary every month and got one time i give her $20 less and she start nagging at me everyday to give her the money

I see all my poly friends going to uni and i had an older brother in SIM and my mum is paying his school fees for him and i was quite angry about it because they get to go to uni while i got forced to work. But the good thing is i was never allowed to hang out with friends when i was still in school and i finally got to experience laser tag, halloween horror night, adventure cove etc. i feel like my life only started when i start working full time. I managed to put braces also and buy the remote control toy car and guitar that i never got to buy when i was young. But my mum scolds me whenever i buy stuff for myself and say i should use the money to pay for housing loan instead.

Everyone at work was very nice and i had a very supportive boss that said that i can go to him if i got any problems but after working for 2 years, my project ended and i went to a different project team. My supervisor also changed. Then i decided to apply to uni and i told some of my colleagues about it because most of my colleagues are nice. But i keep thinking that if i cannot get into full time uni i will just go part time one and not work to prove to others that i also can go uni and not work. Then my supervisor found out that i am going to uni and then there was once he just randomly ask me if i confirm going to uni that year then i just thought of how i need to go to uni and i just told him yes even though i only got into part time degree and not full time one. Then he laugh softly to show me that he was happy about it. But he knew that i only got into part time degree and haven’t got into any full time one at that point

Then he start texting me everyday to ask me when am i going to clear all my leave and ask me if i want to resign earlier and even make me go to the company portal to clear all my leave and resign infront of him when nobody is around. At the end of may, all the application results came out and i only got into the part time degree and didn’t get into any full time one. Then i wanted to text my supervisor and tell him that i want to stay and apply for uni again the following year but i didn’t dare to text because he already keep asking me to clear all my leave and resign earlier. So i accepted the part time degree and told myself that since previously my mum don’t let me go to uni, i should be glad that i got a course now even though it’s just part time. But i start feeling mentally disturbed after accepting the part time degree

Then from that day onwards, i will press the lift buttons everyday at work and there was once i couldn’t take it and i want people to know that i am not ok so i went to push a chair to the floor and started crying. Then my colleagues ask me if i am ok but no matter what i also cannot tell them my real problem and just kept telling them that its because i finally get to go to uni and my mum didn’t let me go to uni. I wish i just told someone about my supervisor and told them that i didnt want the course and just forcing myself to take it. Another thing is my previous supervisor used to care alot about me but he saw me push the chair to the floor and start glaring at me when he sees me but he’s the one that hired me when no one else wants to. Idk why i feel detached from myself after pushing the chair to the floor. I also keep thinking of my poly friends and keep thinking that i want to be in the same life stage as them and just let me supervisor pressure me

Then at home my mum will keep talking about how my pay is too little when im earning 2.8k in my early 20s as a diploma holder. I feel like it’s better if i quit my job to study so at least she can’t talk about my pay anymore. Then she will say things like “she really ah” but she never say i’m really what??

But after resigning, i am just staying at home taking night classes everyday but i feel like i’m happier when i was working because i got more life. I stay at home too much till i keep having brain fog and my resume looks weird because most people work while studying part time or just study full time and not work

I am the same person that posted and say that i am earning 2.8k a month at 23 years old as a software engineer and my mum keep saying that “钱又不会赚回来”

I didn’t mention this but after that I quit my job afterwards to take a part time degree because i couldn’t get into the full time one. I think studying and not working is better since my mum keep saying im not earning enough for her. Now she finally stopped saying “钱又不会赚回来” and keep saying that i shouldn’t quit my job to study part time but at least she stopped talking about my pay

She is also the one that forced me to work right after poly and didn’t let me go to uni straight that’s why i didn’t go uni right after poly

What’s the worst crash out you seen at work? Such as people flipping table, throwing chairs, sweeping paper onto the floor. Anyone seen any physical fights before?

I think some people might recognise me because it might be obvious when I describe what happened here but it’s okay

I’m 25 this year. I started working right after polytechnic and when i started my first job, all my colleagues was very nice and i like the environment quite alot

Then after working for 2 years, i decided to apply to uni and i got rejected from all the full time degree and only got accepted into the part time one but my supervisor found out that i am applying to uni so he secretly pressured me to resign. He texted me everyday to ask me when am i going to clear all my leave and when nobody is around, he made me go to the company portal to clear all my leave and resign infront of him

I don’t know why i didn’t dare to tell any of my colleagues what was happening. None of my colleagues knew that he was pressuring me.

Then ever since 2023 till now im just studying a part time degree and totally not working. I feel so weird because everyone is living while im wasting my 20s being at home. Idk what should i do next. Things could have been different. If i stayed for one more year, i could have saved enough money to go to private uni full time and at least enjoy my uni life as a full time student in a private uni instead of studying part time in a local uni. I remember one of my colleagues was begging me to stay and there was this sports competition at work right before i left but i would never get to go for that sports competition

The worst thing is i was very depressed when i was in poly and i lost my poly friends cos i keep mia and stuff and i was quite affected by my poly friends when i was at work so when my supervisor was pressuring me to resign, i just kept thinking of my poly friends and didn’t really care about work and just let me supervisor pressure me. But now i sort of forgot about my poly friends already. But my poly friends was sort of my fault

I’m just alone at home everyday taking a part time degree and if i find a new job i need to get use to new people and new environment again and the people there might not even be around my age like my first job

Tbh i feel like creating a whatsapp group to expose that supervisor that pressured me to resign because he’s someone that had understanding problems and alot of people don’t like him because he can’t give clear instructions

My resume looks weird also i was working full time then suddenly there’s a gap and i started studying part time and totally not working

Anyone know of this actor called 郑世安？ I saw a few of his shows when i was young and want to know more about him. I think he only act in 1 or 2 shows before in 2011 channel 8 麻婆斗妇 and this kids show called 快乐火才 when he was young. He probably born around 2000.

Any girls here that are born after 1997 and had 重男轻女 parents but you are the younger sister and had an older brother? I always hear stories on how sexist parents treating their eldest daughter badly but there are also families where the parents had one younger daughter and one older son but they treat their youngest daughter badly and treat the oldest son like king even though they are the oldest. Like expecting the youngest daughter to do all the housework for her older brother etc

-used to keep forcing me to go to science center with her and when idw to go, she will ask me to give her reason why idw to go. Then she’s 20+ but she wanted to watch a kids show at science center so she buy 2 tickets without even asking me if i want to watch it and i don’t even want to watch it in the first place. Then in the end still make me pay for the ticket

-when i want to go somewhere, she will keep saying that we should wait until next time then go but in the end she won’t go with me

-When we are hanging out together, she will keep looking at my phone to see what i am doing and ask who am i texting

-when i let her look at a photo on my phone, she will swipe through my whole photo gallery after looking at that one photo

-ask me to pay her back for $2 bread(ok for this one maybe she have financial difficulties but most friends will just forget about it) and she did it more than once

-she teaches tuition part time so she force me to go with her to look for her student at a playground because she wanted to check if her student is fine anot. I will feel weird if im that student and my tuition teacher suddenly come to the playground to look for me out of the blue when i had no tuition on that day