My fiance M/23 got a phone call from his mom and sister demanding him to move back home with them his mom said she was planning on buying a 4 bedroom house to have him move back so that she can put him back on his feet and for financial support. (Even if he doesn’t go they’ll buy the house) So we have had this issue where his mom has been wanting him to move back for the last 2 years and he agrees and says that sounds like a good idea let me think of it and talk to my gf (at the time) and then proceeds to say not yet I’m not moving back. His family doesn’t necessarily not like me but they also don’t like me, they obviously say we’re still children and it would be smart to just have him go back home. - We are currently living with my family doing the exact same thing his mom wants to do lol. He’s been living with me for 3 years his first year he and I were living together in an apartment the 2nd year he moved out to live on his own because I moved back in with my mom and this year he is moved in with me and my family. His mom sees he hasn’t really made any progress since coming here and is worried, understandable, and now his option (his own words) is move at his own pace and stay with me and grow or go home across the country and potentially grow faster? I have told him that the way he grows is up to him and doesn’t depend on his support system. I told him I would go for a couple months but I would come back and if he chose to stay then I we would have to end it because I have done LDR and I absolutely hated it. We actually did a year of LDR and we ended up breaking up at the time. Anyways he is stuck in this dilemma and doesn’t know what to do and ended up saying it feels like he has to choose between his mom or his fiance. I completely understand where his mom is coming from but I’m not moving out to move in with another family and I’m still finishing school and if we’re to go and he stays I know that he doesn’t have time for a relationship because he has to figure out this thing with his family I don’t want to be stuck in this type of situation anymore so I told him to make his decision and stick with it whatever it may be. He ended up saying he wanted to stay and then called his mom to tell her and he ended up swaying again and he got back into the dilemma. His family isn’t saying to break up but to come back and then “when he’s ready and on his feet” to come back to me
(He is also here with me to see everything that was put on this post)
Obviously I can’t fully put in everything that has been said or done but if requested I could give out more details of what’s currently going on.