So. To keep a very long story short, I (26F) have got a crush on this guy (28M) and so far we’ve been friends. We’ve only know each other a few months through mutual friends, and I’m close friends with his sister. He’s very much my type and I thought he was cute since we met. He didn’t really seem interested for a while so I never said anything , but recently we both told each other we’re attracted to each other. I was kinda shocked cuz I didn’t think he reciprocated, but we both feel comfortable knowing we like each other and it doesn’t feel all that awkward, shockingly enough.
Thing is, while he said he found me cute and wants to get to know me better (and vice versa on my side) he told me that he very recently (3-4 months ago) got out of a serious relationship, and that he “wants to pursue something, but feels like he can’t cuz he’s not in the right place”. To which I didn’t really know how to respond.
We were kinda drunk when we confessed to each other so we both figured we should talk about this sober and we’ve arranged to do exactly that soon. I’ve never had a serious relationship before and the fleeting experiences I have had have been pretty bad, so I’m really terrible at this whole dating thing. We’re gonna talk about this in a few days and I don’t really know how to go about it or what to realistically expect. I do know I’m not a casual person, and I want commitment and love from the person I date, and I value myself enough to not wait around for someone whose heart is not really in it. But I also really like him, and feel like it could turn into something if we BOTH actually try to make it work. What to do.