As it says in the title… I (22F) really really love two different people right now. The first one (22M) is part of a huge LGBT friendgroup we have. The second one (F22) is someone I talk to on a one-to-one basis everyday. They both seem to like me ? (The first jokingly flirts a lot and jokes about me being his girlfriend, the second sends me gifts and flowers) but I have no idea if they’d be willing to enter a polyamorous relationship. I feel horrible for possibly letting them on. I have not kissed or made any moves on any of the two apart from jokingly flirting or reciprocating the type of energy they gave me (so, for the one who sends me flowers, I take pictures of flowers too to send it to her)
I know this is gonna end poorly if one of them decides to confess, because I’d have to choose between them. I don’t want to destroy the friendgroup we have, which makes it super hard to actually reject them. I am more than ok with staying in this ‘talking stage’ forever until my feelings fade away (they never really do but they get less overwhelming) but I am worried about one of them confessing. Should I stop talking to them ? Or should I just continue talking and, if they confess one day, explain how I like someone else at the same time ? But isn’t that a breach of their trust, to admit you’ve been actively liking them while also talking to someone else ? How can I handle this and not hurt them ? I love them so much I can’t bear the thought of hurting their feelings