Late last week, I (17F) was asked out to prom by one of my friends (17M). Initially, I was very excited and eager to go to prom with him! However, while I agreed to be his date for prom, he seemed to view this event as the invitation to begin a full-fledged relationship with me, which made me relatively apprehensive.
I honestly felt like I agreed to something completely different than what he had in mind. So, I did text him, telling him that I just don’t feel ready for a long-term relationship currently— I feel way too preoccupied with my heavy course load and the relatively unstable state of my mental health. To me, this commitment honestly feels unfair to him— he should have someone who can commit to him and make him happy. He seemed to take the news relatively well, albeit somewhat disappointed. Although, I did still leave the option of going to prom together up in the air, as I didn’t want to disappoint him completely.
However, here’s where I think I might potentially fumble the bag— after I sent the text and he gave his response, I’ve just felt…really uneasy about going to prom with him. I don’t know— I just have this gut feeling that I shouldn’t go with him or that something bad might happen. I don’t want to break his heart completely, but I’m honestly really beginning to dread prom. I feel pressured by my former agreement, but something just doesn’t feel right. I’m beginning to think that I might just have a better time with my friends instead.
Here’s where I feel like I might be the AH if I follow through: if I tell him that I don’t want to go with him, does that make me selfish? I want to respect his feelings and where he’s coming from, but I feel like the whole night, I’ll just be on edge!
Please help, Reddit! WIBTAH if I don’t go to prom with a guy that I initially said ‘yes’ to?