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Throw away account for obvious reasons…
I 25F was with my ex 30M for 6.5 years and found out that he had posted videos of me behind my back about 10 months into the relationship and posted photos on another site 3 years ago. Both accounts have been deleted so there’s no evidence left of him ever posting them.
I found them because I went through his phone and found an email from PH saying the video had been deleted and the title of the video was clearly talking about me. It was posted a day after we had taken our first video together. Then I found photos of me with my face blurred on his camera roll that he said he posted to fetlife.
I’ve always been open to exploring my sexuality and felt safe enough to share and create those with him and he felt like it was okay to share them publicly. We had a joined fet account once but as far as I was aware I only had the login to it but he could access whenever he asked but never did. Probably because he created his own secret one.
He makes it seem like it’s not a big deal and can’t understand why I’d breakup with him over this. He says that he thought I was okay with “that type of stuff” because I support women that want to do sex work or post OF/PH. Then he told me that he only posted it because he saw you could get monetized for videos and he would have told me if he made money on it but didn’t tell me because it didn’t get many views… as if that is supposed to make it okay??? Am I overreacting??
I haven’t told family or friends besides for one close one because I don’t want to admit that I was making those kinds of videos with him. My friend agrees it’s fucked up and my ex will say sorry but then makes it seem like I’m being dramatic for breaking up over this and says I didnt even try to talk and work things out but I don’t see how I could??
Also, I am aware that what he did is illegal but there’s no evidence so I don’t see a point in trying to report it. He’s a good manipulator and makes me question if it was really that bad at times. Everyone in his life is mad at me for just leaving for “no reason” but he won’t tell anyone what he did either.