Bueno la hago corta, me fui ghosteado al final, incluso subió OTRA NOTA berreta de instagram. Que asco la gente así la verdad. Al final les hice caso pibxs y me fui a hacer otra cosa. Así terminó esta mini anécdota, la próxima que pase algo los primeros en leerlo van a ser ustedes!
Veníamos hablando re bien, ella me respondió una historia, pegamos onda y hablamos por una semana y pico. Arreglamos para salir hoy viernes. Incluso ya habíamos hablado más o menos de horario/lugar y durante la charla ella jodía con “prometo no cancelar jjajaja” y cosas así.
Anoche estábamos hablando normal y de golpe dejó de responder. Pero mientras no me contestaba, subió una nota a Instagram diciendo algo tipo “sin celu, cualquier cosa manden paloma mensajera”.
Desde ahí no habló más.
Mi lógica dice: si alguien quiere ghostear, no sube una nota así sabiendo que la voy a ver. Y que probablemente estaba ocupada/sin batería/colgada
Pero como ya me ghostearon antes, ahora estoy perseguido pensando que capaz cancela hoy o desaparece.
¿Estoy sobreanalizando o les parecería raro a ustedes también?
I’ve been talking to a girl for a while and things seemed to be going pretty well. She replied to one of my sushi stories on Instagram, we started talking more often, she likes my stories, replies to them, etc. So I asked her out and suggested Saturday. She said she couldn’t because she had a family birthday, but she kept the conversation going in a good mood, so I suggested Friday instead. She agreed.
We basically arranged a time and place for tonight (Friday). After that we kept chatting normally, joking around and everything. At one point we started talking about cancellations because I told her my friends always cancel Friday plans since they all have girlfriends now and never go out anymore. She laughed and said something like “lol I promise I’ll try not to cancel.” I replied “nah, I don’t think you’ll cancel on me.” And she answered “damn, that’s a lot of faith, now I REALLY can’t cancel.” Then I told her “we’re gonna have a good time, I promise,” and she replied “okay.” So overall the vibe was genuinely good.
Here’s the thing though: last night, after we had been talking pretty consistently, she suddenly stopped replying for about an hour. During that silence, she posted an Instagram note saying something like “No phone right now, send a carrier pigeon if needed lol.” Since then she hasn’t messaged me again.
Now my brain is split between:
What makes it weird to me is that if someone really wanted to ghost or cancel, posting a public note specifically saying they’re away from their phone — knowing I’d probably see it — feels kind of odd. Especially because the conversation before that was genuinely going well and the date already seemed pretty set.
But I’ve been ghosted before, so now any slightly weird silence immediately makes me overthink.
Am I overanalyzing a pretty normal situation, or does this actually sound like a bad sign to you guys?
Met a girl on Tinder, she actually started the conversation. We had a really good vibe, easy back and forth. After a bit we moved to Instagram, then to WhatsApp.
I asked her out and she said yes pretty quickly. We set a plan for the same day at 10pm. Around the afternoon I confirmed like “we’re still on for tonight, right?” and she said yes, even suggested the time herself. She also mentioned it was unusual for her to meet someone so fast and that she usually takes more time, but she seemed okay with it.
Everything looked solid.
Then at 9pm, one hour before the date, she texts me saying she has to cancel because of a “family issue that just came up” and that she can’t not go. No attempt to reschedule, no alternative day, nothing.
I replied politely, said no problem and asked if she wanted to reschedule. No answer after that.
So yeah, I’m assuming I just got soft ghosted.
What I don’t get is why go all the way to confirming plans and then bail last minute with no follow-up. If she wasn’t interested, why not just say no earlier or not agree at all?
Is this just normal behavior on dating apps or am I missing something?