AITA for refusing to buy a house in another city?
My girlfriend and I live together and have discussed buying a house late next year. We agreed it would be in our current town. She works in a nearby town but it’s a short commute and I primarily work from home.
I applied for a new job last month and it’s in the town my gf works in. We agreed to potentially look for houses there if I get the job since it is an in person job. I could have selected other locations including a city fairly close to us but we discussed it and the commute would just be too long,
I got offered the job and I start in 6 weeks. My gf has depression and has low periods. She’s currently feeling low and is mentioning buying a house in the city near us instead as it’s a nicer area with more to do as we currently live in a small town that isn’t great. I pointed out that would mean me commuting an hour each way which I wouldn’t be doing.
I said she’s can’t be this erratic with major life decisions and can’t let her low mood just throw all plans out of the window. She said she wasn’t big I pointed out she’s started feeling low and is suddenly talking about moving somewhere new and changing her job. I said the commute isn’t just long, it would be expensive.
She said the increase in pay would pay for it but I just said I’m not taking a better job to just spend all of my extra money on travel costs. She said I could look for something else but I refused since I was looking forward to starting this job and I’m not going to be immediately looking to leave.
She said I wasn’t being fair but I pointed out she’s the one wanting us to uproot our lives just because she’s feeling low. I said I won’t be moving and she called me unsupportive and said I should be considering it.
AITA for refusing to buy a house in another city?