AM depends more on your parents rather than your profile
I’ve realized something lately — arranged marriage isn’t just about you, your looks, or your salary. It heavily depends on your parents’ social skills and networking.
In my case, my parents are extremely introverted. They prefer staying at home, don’t like meeting people, and avoid social interaction unless it’s something unavoidable like a wedding. There are actually quite a few good matches within our extended family and network, but they just don’t make the effort to pursue anything seriously.
Instead, they believe in things like “abhi yog nahi hai, June ke baad hai” and just leave everything to that. Meanwhile, I feel like nothing is actually happening.
What frustrates me is that they’re treating marriage like it’s something that will just happen online — like scrolling profiles and it’ll magically work out, almost like ordering something from Amazon.
On my end, I’m 5’9, fit, outgoing, earning well, and I travel a lot. I’m putting effort into myself, but I still feel stuck because the process on their side is almost zero effort.
When I look around, a lot of my friends have found great matches — sometimes even way out of their league — and honestly, it’s because their families are proactive, social, and know how to communicate and build connections.
So yeah, my takeaway is:
Arranged marriage depends a lot on how proactive and socially active your parents are — not just on your profile.
Curious if others have experienced something similar?