My girlfriend didn't remember our conversation after dissociating. What should I do?
Hello. I'm not really sure how to start this, but I just need some advice.
Yesterday, my girlfriend had just lost someone really close to her, so I knew she wasn't okay. We were talking and she felt angry, but then the way she spoke changed and I knew something was up. I think I might have been talking to a different part or alter of her (I don't know the right term, so I'm sorry if I say anything wrong!). They told me that my girlfriend wasn't there, and not her other alter either. I asked if it was okay to know who I was talking to, but they didn't want to share their name so I respected that and just said I'm here for them no matter what.
Now it's the next morning and when I talked to her again, she seemed really confused and asked me what happened. Felt like she didn't remember the conversation at all. I don't really know what to do in situations like this. I'm scared of saying the wrong thing and accidentally triggering her or making her feel worse or distant from me.
If this happens again, what should I say when she asks me what happened? Should I tell her everything or keep it simple?
Another thing is I don't know how to properly address different parts of her if they show up again, but one thing's for sure is that I do and will love all of her. She also can't access a therapist right now because shes in an abusive household and it would make things worse if they found out. She plans to leave as soon as she can and I'm planning to help her get proper support when that happens. I know this is way beyond what I can handle alone, but I just want to do the best I can for now.
If anyone here has experienced something similar, what would you want your partner to do in moments like this?
(Also haha, if by any chance you see this, I’m here, always will be. I love you.)