I don’t know where else to post this, pls don’t flame me.
In 2022 I started a new job, in said job I met a girl. I only worked with her for a couple of weeks before I was relocated.
We became close pretty quickly and would hangout on our breaks and while working together. I thought it was somewhat flirty but we were pretty young and I was super awkward and had never felt so strongly about a girl before.
On my last day this girl texted me some messages that suggested she was really scared to tell me something, she told me she was gay. Which i thanked her for telling me and responded suggestively. She then continued the same funky messages that I thought were going to lead to a confession but instead she ended up telling me she got a girlfriend.
I was heart broken over her for months. I started dating men and getting into some really unhealthy relationships. It’s been almost 4 years and I never ever stopped thinking about her.
We’ve stayed on and off friends since then. She’s currently in a relationship
I’ve been trying to distance myself from her out of respect for her and her relationship because tbh I don’t feel like I can hang out with her without having intense feelings and like a knot in my throat just wanting to address everything.
We’ve never talked about what happened but every time I hang out with her it feels like there’s unspoken feelings. I’m probably also just tripping.
But anyway she texted me about hanging out so I’m spiralling again cause I don’t know how to say no to her.
How can I go about this situation?