As you’ve seen by the title, i feel like my bf doesn’t help out around the house as much as i really want.
I don’t know if this is a selfish post, or if i’m an AO, but sometimes it really just makes me sad when it feels like i have to do all the work around the house.
I truly love my boyfriend (and i know he loves me), and he is amazing in every single aspect. except cleaning up the house. I will normally clean the house (which i don’t really mind, it’s a nice way for me to de-stress) but sometimes, i just want to come home from a long day of work, to things already done. He’ll do small things here and there, but 9/10, i either have to ask him to do it or i’ll just do it myself.
For instance, tonight i started the laundry because i saw the bin was full. I brought it to the laundry room and he said “i can throw the laundry in the wash!” as if i wasn’t already in the middle of it. I feel like it defeats the whole purpose of wanting to clean. yes, he DID offer to throw it in the wash, but not until he noticed i had started to do it. Or, when i came home from work (he got off at 3:30pm today and i got off around 7pm) and the dishes that i had washed that morning before i left for work were \*still\* on the drying rack so i had to ask him to put them away, instead of him noticing they were there and just putting then away so i didn’t have to.
I just wish he’d notice the things that need to be done without me having to tell him what needs to be done. I know we grew up in very different lifestyles (my dad always made sure our house was spotless and that we helped VS his parents, i feel like, didn’t really care) but i feel like he should just see what needs to be done and do it, you know?
I’ve spoken to him previously about how i wish he’d notice these things and take action but it seems like he hasn’t put two and two together lol. I don’t want to have to tell him to do things or leave notes for him, because then it’s still all on my plate to make sure they get done.
we certainly do not live in a messy house and neither of us make messes like that, it’s just the small things.
Does anyone have any suggestions (not just telling me to leave him lol, it is NOT to that point) of things i could maybe say or do to get him to take action with cleaning? any help is appreciated:)