Using a throwaway for privacy.
Me and my friend are both 19M, in the UK, and we live together. I have autism, fibromyalgia and BPD, he has Bipolar, BPD, ADHD, MECFS, fibromyalgia, chronic hives and autism. Adding in case its relevant.
My friend just started an anti psychotic (Quentapine, 25mg) for the first time five days ago, and im needing some advice on how to help both of us cope with it all.
On the first day, he was incredibly aggressive and attempted to attack me over a minor disagreement. He broke one of the doors in our apartment, and unlike other previous fights, I was unable to reason with him or calm him down.
Every other day since then has been hell for the both of us. He's been very stagnant, for lack of better words. He's not behaving like himself at all. He's gone from regularly eating, having a routine, having enthusiastic conversations with me, showing me affection, having sex with me, watching shows with me, paying attention to our cats, regularly stimming (from his autism) to rarely eating, practically ignoring the cats, having no sympathy when I talk about my feelings, not having any interest in sex or our shows or affection, not talking barely at all and just overall being very unlike himself. It also doesn't help that weve both got the flu, so we've been cooped up in our bedroom because we dont have the physical energy to be in the living room.
When he started this medication, his psychiatrist told him that if he was having any adverse reactions, he should call her. He has tried to multiple times. I am going to attempt to contact her myself tomorrow, but im not confident she'll respond.
Calling 999 or 111 isn't an option, as 111 has previously said since hes under a certain mental health team, they can't help with anything to do with his mental health. 999 also isn't an option, as on the first day when I told him I would have to call the police if he put his hands on me, he got even more aggressive. I also dont think I could convince him to go to A+E. He's tried calling his mental health duty line multiple times, they didn't respond.
He's waited so so long to get some form of help, and this anti psychotic came in good time because he was showing the early signs of a manic episode, but im just stuck in this hard place where I dont know how to help and I'm incredibly concerned about him, and its having a really bad effect on my mental health, as my BPD symptoms are being exurberated by his lack of affection and empathy. I'm also dealing with a lot of really serious personal issues on top of this, so im without the support id normally have, and I dont have anyone else.
Any advice would be appreciated on how we should proceed.