Got angry on wife
I have been dealing with this issue with my wife for the past 8 years. I always wanted a working partner. She was a teacher when we were dating, but after marriage she moved with me to a new city and left her job. She never really tried to find another one.
The first year of our marriage was difficult and we had a lot of fights. Then she got pregnant, and since we had no support system, I gave up the idea of her working. For context, I have a good job and earn well, but it is extremely stressful and demanding.
My daughter is now 7 years old, but my wife has still never considered working. She takes care of the house with some help and looks after our daughter well, but she is completely dependent on me even for small things. For every vacation, I have to do all the planning from scratch without any support from her.
On our recent vacation, I had been driving for over 10 hours and asked her to find a restaurant for us to eat at. She could not do it, became emotional, and I ended up shouting badly at her. I felt terrible afterward. I have even paid for her to learn driving, but she never started driving because of fear.
I don’t know what to do anymore and often feel trapped and restrained in this relationship. I also miss intimacy. She never initiates sex, and many times I feel like I have to beg for it. Overall, I feel suffocated in this relationship, and at the same time guilty whenever I lose my temper and shout at her.
What should I do?