Hey, I’m a SAHM just looking for someone to talk to. My husband has been really distant and said we “have nothing left,” but won’t actually talk about it, and we still share a bed. I take care of everything for our son and just feel really alone. If anyone wants to talk or be a friend, I’d really appreciate it.
I (26F) have been married to my husband (28M) for almost 6 years (together 7).
This past September, we lost my dad to Stage 4 lung cancer. My husband and my dad were very close, and it’s been hard on both of us. Our 6-year-old son has ADHD, DMDD, and anxiety, and I was recently diagnosed with inattentive ADHD and anxiety.
For the past few weeks, my husband completely shut down and barely spoke to me, even about our son. When I tried to talk to him, he said things like “there’s nothing to talk about” and “we have nothing left, I’m just here.” When I asked about divorce, he said it’s “not a discussion,” but also told me, “you know where the door is, I won’t beg.”
A few days ago, he started talking to me again, but only in a very casual, surface-level way. We still sleep in the same bed, but emotionally things still feel very distant.
We moved in with my mom after my dad passed so she wouldn’t lose her home. I handle everything for our son—appointments, therapy, medications, as well as all of his schooling and sports. My husband is not involved in any of it.
He’s told me my mental health is “too much” and that I use my dad’s death as an excuse. He also says taking care of our son “isn’t a job,” but then tells me not to work when I offer.
I’m scared to leave because he’s all I’ve known since I was 19, and he’s told me no one would want a single mom with mental health issues.
I just feel stuck and confused about what this means.