I (28F) and my husband (30M) have been married for 2 years and dating for 4. To give some context my husband works as an investment banker and rakes in around $200k plus bonuses a year whereas I am an elementary school teacher and make around $45k a year. We met through Hinge.
So basically, last week, I decided to cook my husband a meal after work. Because of his job, he normally gets home around 9pm so I thought I'd make him dinner one night as a nice gesture.
I had been planning this since the beginning of the week, and was super excited. I'd found this cute recipe on Allrecipes, and had snuck out to get ingredients when he wasn't home. I plated it nicely, tried to make it look decent.
I wasn't back till 5 as I had a training meeting after the school day so I didn't have loads of time, but I really tried my best.
When my husband showed up, I showed him the meal, and he just nodded and walked off. I had laid it out on the table and he just took the meal up to our room and ate it there. I was pretty annoyed so asked him what his problem was and he said I was being performative and that he didn't know why I was trying to be some kind of trad wife.
Then I was infuriated and asked him how making a meal was being 'a trad wife' and he said he’s just tired of me acting like small gestures make up for not doing much else at home. He said I don’t really 'appreciate how draining his job is' and how 'I wouldn't understand'.
That was enough for me, I felt so undermined and unappreciated. I stormed out and I'm now staying with my parents who live nearby.
Since then, I’ve been getting texts from my husband for the past 3 days. None of them are really an apology, mostly just him saying I overreacted and telling me to “come home.”
I do feel my husbands behaviour was unacceptable but maybe I was wrong to leave and not talk to him. So, AITA?