Porn addiction
It’s a throw away account. My ex boyfriend had porn addiction for a long time but only started to do anything about it when I found out, I basically made him do something about his addiction because I wasn’t happy that he had it and it made me insecure and he agreed. We were long distance so it was even harder for both of us I monitored him and everything he does because I was paranoid he would relapse (I know it was a bad approach) and everything was very bad because he would make up stories so I’d break up with him so he could relapse peacefully and I would shame and call him names for relapsing because we are both teenagers who are both first time in serious relationship. He revised a lot of stuff I asked him to tell his parents and ask for help and he did everything seemed to get better he went a month clean with me still monitoring him and started to go to therapy. After the month of being clean he started relapsing a lot and nothing would help he said he has no motivation of his own and that he is doing it for my sake and that he wants to be more independent but I still monitored him because of me being scared of him relapsing. Forwarding couple of months everything seems fine we just limit our talks about addiction and try and be a normal couple he tells me he wants to remove restrictions from his pc and other stuff because he wants to get better on his own without my interference and with a lot of arguing I agreed because ultimately he did have to do it himself. However I found out he masturbated to zoo porn a month ago (drawn animals not real ones before it was only furries) I checked his search history because I had access to it to check if he had been doing any progress or lying to me because he broke my trust many times and I saw the zoo porn from a month ago, he told me it was my fault and that I was manifesting it into him by telling him his addiction might lead him into getting into extreme stuff and that it was all my fault for him not getting better in the addiction due to me doing everything for him (which I agree to some degree) and we broke up. I still love him a lot and I know it’s just his addiction led him to that and we kept in contact for like two weeks he told me he still doesn’t do anything for his addiction and when I told him that he might jerk off to such porn again he told me he knows. I know it’s not my business or problem anymore and I’m not saying I didn’t do anything wrong we both did but I don’t understand why doesn’t he try and fix his addiction even tho he agrees with me that it might lead to him jerking off to that stuff again? (Btw we had other reasons to break up it’s not only his fault we had pretty toxic relationship from both sides)