Can I ask for advice please?
Hi all. I’m in some need of some advice, as I feel really helpless. For the past almost 3 years, I’ve been in a relationship with my bf. I love him so much and he’s the one for me. I’ve been aware of his ex gf since he and I met. A few months into my relationship with him, she reached out to him, asking for him back, as she was the one who dumped him and was unfaithful to him. He ignored her. She proceeded to blow up publicly online. She then found out he was with me, and it escalated.
For a year solid, she would pine after him publicly online. She’d make crazy videos lip syncing to songs about how she had him first, and at one point, showed up 10 mins outside our home to film a tik tok (our home was in the middle of nowhere and hours away from where she lived.) I felt scared and worried that he was somehow in contact with her and egging her on behind the scenes. He assured me he wasn’t and would always offer up his phone. Then came the crazy love playlists dedicated to him. It was all too much.
We wanted to block her, but things felt like a train wreck, and we weren’t sure what she was going to do next. So, he texted her and tried to give her the closure he felt she was possibly seeking. Yet, the online stuff still happened.
After some time, she took a break and finally went private online. It was amazing. Then she popped back up again and alleged they were speaking. I once again asked him what was going on, and he said they had no contact. He told me if I wanted her to confirm that, I could ask her.
She once again went away again and he and I ended up moving far away. Finally, it felt like this nightmare was over and we were free of her harassment and happy. Then, a few months into our move, she popped up once again and claimed they were talking and having some kind of secret, emotional affair and whatnot. I finally confronted her, and she was immediately defensive, rude and very dishonest and tried to gaslight me. It was awful. I felt even more helpless.
It’s now been months since then, and after I had reached out to her, she magically removed all the content she made about him (which she claimed wasn’t about him, even though it clearly was) and went quiet again. A week ago, my bf went on a trip and I stayed at home. And again, she reemerhed online, reuploaded all the love playlists and started adding new songs to them about a guy leaving his gf for the girl and whatnot and started posting about him again. I’m at the end of my rope, y’all. I don’t know what to do anymore. People will obviously advise me to block her, which is certainly smart, but I do feel like she’s actually possibly talking to him, and trying to rub it in my face. I don’t know what to do. Any advice?