AIO for letting this bother me so much and thinking he’s a greedy man? I offered to pay for his Starbucks coffee on the second date and he loaded it up with extras until it hit $16??
I went on a date recently with a guy I had actually gone out with once before… like 2 years ago. Back then he paid, but he kept trying to get me to come back to his place which turned me off a bit, so I kind of lost interest. We stayed connected on FB though.
Fast forward to now, he reaches out and asks me out again to meet. I suggested we just meet at Starbucks, super casual.
When we get there, I offer to pay for his drink out of courtesy since he’d paid for my nice dinner on the first date 2 years ago.
He says yes, which already made me pause a little but fine whatever.
Then he gives his order to the barista and it just… keeps going. He orders a venti (large) brown sugar shaken espresso, adds like 6 extra espresso shots, cold foam, and a bunch of other add-ons I didn’t even fully catch. His drink ended up being $16. At Starbucks.
For context, my brown sugar shaken espresso was $7. He’s 36 and during the date he casually mentioned he just got a pay bump and now makes around $200k. I’m 30 and make about $110k.
I’m not mad about the money itself, I can obviously afford a coffee. It just felt kind of… tactless? Like if someone offers to pay, especially on a first or second date, isn’t it basic etiquette to keep it reasonable? Or at least not go all out with the most customized expensive drink possible? I wonder if he’d get himself a $16 drink if he was paying?
It gave me a weird vibe, especially combined with how he was the first time we went out.
AIO for thinking this was kind of inconsiderate, or is this just me overthinking a $16 Starbucks drink?