u/Alarmed_Carpenter_91

Am I the asshole for calling my husband pathetic for not waking up to our crying 1 month old. My husband and I started a routine where I will go upstairs to sleep and he will stay downstairs in the tv room with our 1 month old and sleep until the baby wakes up for his next feed ( im exclusively breastfeeding). Around 1 am I wake up to the sound of our baby crying as usual. I lay in bed listening to the crying for 2 minutes give or take. Its uncomfortable to hear my baby cry and hes crying for longer than I like. I assume its during his diaper change. This is part of our routine. He will change the baby before bringing him to me. After the 2 minutes of crying my husband comes up with the baby and proceeds to ask if I'd like him to change his diaper first!! This upset me because of course I want the diaper change before feeding AND I realize that ALL that crying was because he couldn't wake up to the crying?? Im upstairs and hes laying with the baby... I couldn't believe the crying woke me first and that it lasted that long before my husband reacted. I said to him I thought that this was pathetic and I couldn't belive he couldn't wake up to the screaming right next to him.. No surprise that the conversation was heated between us but in this heated moment after I told my husband how I thought that was pathetic, he proceeds to tell me "im a bad person".... im shocked... I told him he can go sleep downstairs again since he seems to be just way too tired and out of line. Am I over reacting? And is him calling me a bad person no where near the same as me saying what he just did was pathetic?.....