In-laws got divorced back in February.. MIL doesn’t stop surprising me.
Well, lets get to it. My In-laws finalized their divorce back in February and from my MIL all I have gotten is a shit show, mainly gossip I don’t want to be part of. So, I decided to carefully take myself out of the equation but there’s someone that she loves and I can’t keep her away which is her grandson. In the 3 months she’s been officially divorced I have seen or found out the following:
- Damaging my FIL reputation
- Literally not present in our lives until its convenient for her
- Demanding I answer her calls
- Trying to get me to choose sides
- Unannounced visits (appearing infront of my house & calling to force me to open the door)
- Not respecting that no means no.
- Lies
Thanks to all that I snapped. Obviously spoke to my husband about it. But I obviously need a deeper conversation.
Its been quite a hassle for me since I’m a working mom (3:30am wake ups) and I spend very little time with my toddler. Because of that I decided that visits that emotionally drain me are no goes when I’m with my toddler. So last week she calls me, I don’t answer because my baby was sleeping and when I look out the window she’s right in front of my house. The next day she texted me asking if she could visit in the afternoon and I told her no because of how tired I get from work and I want to spend time with my son. She went straight to my husband to ask (to get a different answer)… But my husband said no. Mind you she doesn’t work so she has free time and my toddler is the last person she thinks about. She thinks its perfect to visit at 7 or 8pm..
Literally like 2 hours ago, i heard a car engine running in front of my house and I saw red. Didn’t open the door or anything just went to my bedroom with my son. She calls and that’s when I snapped I literally told her that I saw her and she never let me know she was coming. Her excuse was that she had to make a call and she stopped at my house. Mind you she has to pass by the entrance of her street to end up at my house. She said “I stopped and I would understand if you didn’t come out”…. She wasn’t going to understand because she always goes above me when I say no.
She also did more things back on april but i’ll need a whole book.
How wrong was I for snapping out? How bad is it that I trust her with my son or even be around?
I don’t know if im just being an overprotective mama bear 😔