u/Alarmed-Parfait8495

Any positive stories from cheating??

Hi!

I haven’t had sex with my spouse in years and I am deprived of affection, emotional connection, and desire.

Us, late 30s. Me-female, husband-male

I’m contemplating cheating and have some doubts and fears. I tried to ask for permission but was told it was not given it.

My choices are:

  1. continue to hope couples therapy will help us

  2. continue to accept the relationship as it is

  3. have an affair and get the connection I need

  4. separate and end the relationship

With a child, #4 isn’t my favorite option but I fear if I stay I am choosing #2.

So I am wondering about route #3. Any success stories? Genuinely I think if I am emotionally investing myself outside of the marriage, it could create a void that may make my husband realize something is going wrong.

I’d love your feedback.

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u/Alarmed-Parfait8495 — 7 days ago