u/AkuumaSennpaai

new here and asking for some help in this situation. essentially, my gf and i are in a very rocky situation in our relationship. we’re technically broken up but still very much loyal to each other and are working towards a relationship again. it was a real rough start. we’re dealing with a lot of things going on in both of our lives that are huge major stressors. i was unfortunately lazy and didn’t look into ROCD when she first mentioned it and took her word for it without doing any research of my own until now when it’s probably too late. at the moment she feels like i am a cheater/shady/sus for mentioning my ex in a previous story about how people would come up and disrespect me by saying my ex had a nice ass(after talking about how we both don’t like girls who post ass and nudes online, so i made connections bc my ex used to and i hated it). my gf(calling her that for ease) didn’t like that i mentioned it and felt i was complimenting my exes ass. i failed to reassure her in any way in the moment as i didn’t see that i was offensive and she didn’t like that. she also is feeling that i don’t compliment her well enough and that strangers or dudes in her dms validate her better than i do. keep in mind she has a full notes page in her phone of things ive said to her that she thinks are extremely meaningful. i’ve tried to reassure her which after research i’m seeing is wrong so i’m just stuck and wanted to reach out for help or advice. if any extra info is needed please just ask