Have you thought you might be as much the problem?
Ok we started dating 4 months ago and you were my first relationship after a 20 year marriage. You were great, you blew away all my preconceptions, taught me that someone could care about me again, and taught me that sex could be pretty blood fantastic after a 10 year drought at the end of my marriage.
Then two weeks ago you broke up with me 5 hrs after a prostate exam I’d been worried. You blamed your daughter’s medical condition and the stresses round that. Fair enough, I was upset but I’m a big boy and I can take that, I always said our families and our kids would come first so it was fair enough.
Then I find out you’ve been meeting with your ex before you broke up with me! You know the one you call toxic. The one your friends had an intervention with you about. The one who messaged you when he found out we’d started dating saying that “you’d only fuck it up again!”. The one, laughably you fucked in the back of his van at the local motorway services.
Have you thought that you keeping taking him back might be part of the problem? You’re teaching him his behaviour is acceptable!
The thing I’m most sad about knowing the truth is you blaming our break up on your daughter. For fucks sake she’s badly ill. It wasn’t her, she’s got enough on her plate! It was you.
And now I’ve got to smile and be polite tomorrow when you return my key and I give you back your son’s coat you left at my holiday home. I’ll not mention I know, there’s no point in arguing about it as… well it’s over.
Thank you for teaching me I could have feelings for people again after abuse at the mouth and deeds of my former wife. Thank you for making me see I do have a future ahead at the end of raising my kids which I’d lost in my depression at the end of my marriage.
Perhaps, not thank you for making me see my future will be alone.