(throwaway account) My BF(35) and I(39) have been together for a few years. It has been a confusing, on-off experience. I have never had this type of interaction before where someone doesn't directly express intention/commitment.
He recently moved into a new apartment in Austin, I asked him point blank if he intended for us to move in together or what is his intention. He said "it's whatever you want it to be" then says "plus you were going back to your parents then going abroad." He also said he called up his friends and said they have a home anytime, and told me I am always welcome to stay there... Just a few days ago he said he picked the place "with me in mind." Huh??
Apparently he was under some mind spell that I was moving abroad for a year (NO). I don't know where he got that idea, I corrected it right away. I did him a huge favor by taking a bunch of clothes and supplies on my trip to LATAM to help out his brother and family, and get some medical treatments (much cheaper than US), and come home. That's it. He seemed shocked or disappointed, I am not sure. He definitely didn't seem excited. Maybe I am overthinking?
He was originally supposed to come with me, the whole trip was his idea and now he is acting odd and surprised I don't want to stay abroad by myself. No, I don't want to live in a dangerous 3rd world country by myself LOL
I have already booked my flight home. I am so confused and genuinely don't understand this man. He keeps deflecting and I don't like the vague answers. What should I ask instead? Any thoughts?
**TL;DR; : Confused about male behavior and his intentions**.