I (M) am getting married soon (Punjabi wedding).
I just heard about phera pauna ceremony. I cant wrap my head around this. So hoping someone can give me a better insight to this.
Bride side family will come and take her for a couple of days, a day after our wedding. Then us, groom side family will go to brides house and bring her back.
I understand that it's a bit rough for the bride to leave her family home and revisiting her home helps her emotionally and with transitioning.
I just cannot understand that we are not married formally until the groom side family brings her back?
Is she only coming to stay a night with me then going back home for a couple of days. She will be formally mine when we bring her back? Maybe I'm overthinking this ritual but the whole thing doesn't make sense to me. I'm shaken by the idea because for a couple spending their time especially after the wedding is so crucial and to get to know each other.
This'd leave me feeling lonely, internalized emotions while showing smiles from outside. Minimal contact with her to check in if she is ok and much more.
I'm not being insecure or clingy. The whole idea is new to me so im just shocked and its taking me a very long time to process it.
Can anyone please make sense of this and explain it to me like I'm 2 years old.
Thanks