u/Ahnannahmus

I (23) love him (31) but I was just on the brink of leaving him. He’s not abusive or anything, just we’ve been through him cheating In the past and recently, like 6 months ago recently. I had went to rehab and was not able to be in communication for a month since they take your phones.

We were together anyway and were able to talk on the office phone at the rehab I was at once per week. Still when I got out, we went back to seeing/sleeping with each other but things weren’t adding up, I went through his phone, and it went down hill from there and I found out.

I forgave him then but have been resenting him ever since, then he pulls this shit. I feel it’s very manipulative because I told him from the day we met, I’m not going to have kids before marriage. I even been telling him I was thinking about birth control.So it’s all too much to be a “ coincidence”. I’m stuck between not wanting to marry him but not wanting to abort for personal reasons.

Watermelon with tajin , mexican rice with chicken & doritos.

Since TikTok and other popular social media in general, it feels like a lot of people are casually labeling themselves as autistic, ADHD, OCD, or other neurodevelopmental and mental health conditions. As someone who has actually been diagnosed with both ADHD and OCD since I was younger and has been on different ADHD meds over the years like Vyvanse, Adderall, and Focalin, it can honestly get frustrating sometimes.

My OCD has affected a lot of areas of my life, like dealing with intrusive thoughts, keeping routines, managing anxiety, and just functioning day to day. Because of that, I am also looking into getting tested for autism, especially since there is a strong family history. My uncle is autistic, verbal but needs daily support and lives in a group home. I also have two younger cousins who are non verbal and autistic, so I’ve seen how differently autism can present depending on support needs.

My main point is that as someone who is actually diagnosed and dealing with these conditions in a real, sometimes disabling way, it can feel like the seriousness of it gets watered down online. Social media has made it feel almost trendy to self diagnose after watching short clips from ppl who are not even licensed or qualified. I get that some ppl are just trying to understand themselves or relate to experiences, but there is a big difference between relating to certain traits and actually meeting diagnostic criteria that affects things like work, school, relationships, emotional regulation, and basic daily life.

Everyone has quirks or struggles, but that doesn’t automatically mean it is a clinical condition. The reality of these diagnoses is not cute or aesthetic. It can be really hard, like struggling to keep jobs, finish school, maintain hygiene and routines, deal with anxiety or intrusive thoughts, and function independently without support or treatment.

It just feels like that part gets lost online sometimes, and the ppl who are actually living with these conditions end up being misunderstood or brushed off.

Found out I was a month pregnant, boyfriend proposed 2 days later