I’m looking for some honest advice from people who may have been in a similar place.
My wife and I have been together for 19 years, married for 10, and we have two young kids. I work a lot—long hours at the office and then more work after the kids go to bed. She stays home with the kids and is truly incredible at what she does. I know she’s over stimulated,
Overwhelmed, touched out and maxed out by the end of the night too. She loves our kids deeply and takes amazing care of them.
Lately though, it feels like we’ve drifted. She seems really withdrawn from me. We don’t really talk about feelings anymore—we just kind of move through each day like a routine. Our intimacy is basically gone, and I don’t know how we got here.
I care about her and our marriage so much, and I want to fix this, but I don’t even know where to start. I also don’t know how to ask her if she’s okay without it coming out wrong or making things worse.
If you’ve been through something like this—how did you reconnect? How do you even begin that conversation?
I’m open to any advice.
tl;dr pulling marriage out of a rut