I found out that my friend keeps a notes list of my mannerisms, and I don’t know what to do
I (23F) started grad school a few months ago and have since become very good friends with “A” (23M), nothing romantic at all but we became “study buddies” and hang out around the same people.
This past weekend we were at a party for some mutual friends when our friend “B” (23F) joked about “A’s” notes app and how she still wants to know what hers says. I looked confused and asked what they were talking about, to which “B” told me how “A” apparently has a note for each of the people he is close with in his notes app listing all of their behaviors, mannerisms, etc. “A” explained that “its just stuff like, B looks to left everytime she lies” and a “# of times B mentions her ex”. He then followed up by telling me that my note has 14 different things listed. FOURTEEN. I looked at him confused as to what he could put and said “but I’ve never lied to you, so what cues could you possibly have for me”, he responded with “yes you’ve never lied, but I can always tell when you’re not fully telling the truth about something”.
what. the. fuck.
Now, I understand picking up on certain people’s habits and their mannerisms, making mental notes of little things. But to have an entire notes app listing the different things he’s noticed about people?? I have been kind of spiraling about this ever since and I don’t know what to do… is this normal behavior?
Edit to add: A lot of people are assuming spectrum, and I’d like to clarify that he told me in undergrad he took a lot of psychology classes and he does like to psychoanalyze/read into people. If he does happen to be on the spectrum, which he is very intelligent, I believe him to be very very high functioning.