u/Agreeable_Base2590

I’m trying to complete my breadth within psychology requirements and so far I’ve done PSY 366: psychological disorders and I’m enrolled in PSY 350: social psychology for the fall, but I want to add another one.

I can’t decide between:

PSY 320: learning and motivation

PSY 323: sensation and perception

PSY 324: memory and cognition

I could also fulfill the biological area with PSY 325: physiological psychology, but I was never good at biology and heavy memorization. Also I’m looking for an in person class at Tempe!!

Which ones have you taken and if you loved the class what professor did you have? PSY 366 has exams that are 60% of our grade and it’s pretty stressful. I would rather not pick heavy ones since I’m going to be a research assistant and TA next semester. Pls lmk!

We didn’t change anything about the products, litter, or litter box, but my cat the past few days has just been throwing her litter onto the floor on purpose? It’s an automatic litter box so we thought maybe it’s time to clean it but she did it again today. I looked it up and it might be that there’s not enough litter in the box? Is there any other reason this could happen? There haven’t really been any other new behaviors.

I saw a post saying if you’re not sure if you want a kid or not, ask yourself these questions: would you still want a kid if they were born physically disabled, if you ended up having to become a single mom, and if they ended up having completely different beliefs than you. I thought about it and I just don’t really feel a maternal/motherly feeling and I never really have. I have worked with kids and taken classes about child development but I feel like my want to not change my body is stronger than my want to have kids. When I see mothers showing their stretch marks, loose skin, C-section scars, I think they’re beautiful. But I really just would rather not go through that and keep my body the way it is. I’m very open to adopting, like genuinely the only thing turning me off is pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. If I’m that selfish, should I not have kids? I’ve asked my friend what she thinks about people who are child free and she said it would be sad if you grow older and don’t have someone to take care of you. I just don’t think that’s enough of a reason to have a child, just bc I want them to take care of me..? I mean there’s a whole subreddit about regretful parents, which is definitely selection bias on my end, but i feel as though it’s important to read their perspectives.

The whole process of pregnancy/postpartum honestly sounds horrible to me, and I can’t get past the fact that the woman goes through all these physical and emotional changes while the husband doesn’t. I already struggle sometimes with thoughts that Allah made things way harder for women than men. I know he’s the most fair, but I just feel like men get it easier biologically. I know I would end up building resentment towards my husband over that and feel trapped, especially if I’m the one doing most of the caregiving too. I also hate how normalized it is for the husband to not be very involved. I see posts of men “babysitting” their own kids and people praise them for it. when he is involved, which is the bare minimum as a father, he gets so much praise for being a good dad.

I know this is a privileged question to even ask too. this is probably the first generation where women can even think about whether they want kids or not instead of just accepting it. And I’m still only 19, so I know my views will change, and I’m not going to go around telling people I’m officially child-free. I just don’t feel that urge. And I see mothers say that they’ve just always wanted to be a mom so badly. I know that this is something you should be sure about and actively make the decision if you want them or not. I know I obviously don’t have to decide now but what if in 3-4 years I wanna get married and he mentions wanting kids? Having kids is basically a sacrifice that says you’re no longer going to prioritize your life and now you’re responsible for this living being. I just don’t know if I’ll ever be ready to not be my own priority anymore

Has anyone else felt like this? Did your feelings change over time? And how do you deal with this when thinking about marriage, especially if the guy wants kids?