My husband, my 6 year old kid MIL, FIL and myself live together. They are financially dependent on us - so moving out is not an option (for context).
I'm currently 3 months pregnant with my second child. And i am a working woman - I work in IT.
I do my best when it comes to supporting my in laws whenever possible. When my MIL had undergone knee surgery i was there throughout to take care of her.
But she has never reciprocated any care towards me. She always prefers helping her daughter.
When I told her I was pregnant with my second child she told me that we should have planned for it a couple of years earlier and now it is not the right time as she is old already. For context she's 62 and it was my FIL who helped take care of my first child mostly. It really hurt my feelings that day.
I have a lot of vomiting and not once she took care of me. She made me cook breakfast and lunch most days as well.
It was my birthday last week. I never expected any materialistic things throughout these years from her as i understand that they are dependent on us financially. But she didn't even make a kheer or payasam to celebrate the birthday. It was very hurtful yet again.
She has done a lot of such minor things throughout my married life, but I never really gave her the attention she sought and didn't fight as it would hurt my husband.
Today i lost it. I was leaving for work and since it's summer holidays for my kid i asked her to feed breakfast as i was getting late. She started fighting with me about why i didn't do it. She said that "just because I'm at home I can't do all the work". Please mind that she spends 70% of her day laying in bed and talking to her sisters over the phone.
I got so mad that i said it won't take much time to do that and these words are not necessary. She kept giving back to me.
Finally i fed my kid and then i left for the office. My entire day was upset and i felt very undeserving of such behaviour.
My husband also has some issues with her and they are not in good terms already. She will say that she will leave the house. I just do not want to be the trigger point of that situation. Let me know how i can handle it. I don't want to be the home wrecker.
Edit about the husband's situation.