Perimenopause and faking an orgasm
Over the past few weeks I’ve (45f) noticed I’m not climaxing, at least not like I used to. Even solo I’m having trouble. So the other days I faked an orgasm during oral sex, not because I was not happy with my husband performing this, but because there’s just changes in my body I don’t know how to handle yet. I still want sex it’s just not the same for me.
I went to the doctor and I do have very low T so I’m going more bloodwork, so I opened up to my husband about all this, including faking the orgasm.
He pretty much just yelled over me trying to explain what I’m going through and called me deceptive. He also said I need to come clean about any affairs I’m having. I walked away from the yelling and told him when he’s ready to speak calmly, I will talk to him. He just said he doesn’t care and I’m a fraud. Now he probably won’t speak to me for days (based on how he has reacted in past arguments). And then the insults will come I’m sure.
Was I wrong in opening up about any of this? What’s the proper way to handle this type of reaction? I wasn’t saying it was something wrong with him, I was explaining how it’s my issue and I’m working with the doctor on it.