AITAH for silent treatment of pregnant wife
Got married 6 months ago.
3x a week constant arguments
Found out we was expecting, 1st trimester shit went to bed to the point she recorded me arguing and she sent to her family and my family siblings parents etc
After all that she left and went back to her mom's..blocked me for a week or two..unblocked me asked for money... i sent it then...texted me to never contact her again said communicate with her mom for anything else...
Even after all that i said let's keep open communication check in even if its 20seconds im open to reconciliation I canr go months without talking...yh sure she did all that but I strongly belive it's only 6 months couples take time we never lived together n life is up n down just gotta handle it...bit of 0atience n understanding literally start from scratch to understand each other.....She completely rejected it said I'm embarrassed to have your seed, your not a leader etc.
Blocked me afterwards for 1 month since then iv been in communication with her mom's but I don't like how everyone is involved and only 2 of us know the truth...its constant humiliation all the 6 months...out there in the air all the things and vulnerability is out in the open....anyways
The mom's spoke she wanted me to move to her place or country. I said how the hell am I goi g to provide in a foreign country I don't know. She wanted to be here(UK) I did the wedding. Paid for house. Paid for gold. Met in laws most respectful way to give in marriage to daughter....all for what to end in 6months..
Anyways one day I just said fuck it wtf am I doing i married y9ur daughter not the mother...blocked deleted her mom and wife without explanation. .you can't negotiate or meet halfway just won't listen...She married before only lasted 9 months but this was 10yrs ago now late 20s you'd think you'll learn from that have some experience & profound understanding but no.
To conclude it's been about a month since I blocked them I went from staying in bed all day, not going work, not paying rent barely ate...to new house(she doesnt know..she also took house keys) new job new colleagues new start. I never felt so much pressure leave me i feel at incredible peace but there's a baby involved which is incredible moment my proudest but its going to be difficult im not a dead beat or a monster I just feel violated at the highest level I asked my friends, siblings if they would record their spouse or talk in negativity constantly never takes my advice then takes it when shit takes a left turn then takes my advice lol.
Anyways idk man. Its been about 2 months...2 days ago she called me from an international line 3x miscalls late at night past 11pm to 1am..i was sleeping but woke up to shock but didn't call back(i cant engage emptionally yet)...idk I never done this before or how to go about it...I don't block people I communicate I don't do silent treatment...but in this case distance space & boundaries is required it's first time i did something like this.
Pls I just need advice I'm in the middle wanting to contact or wait it out...but one thing is for sure I can't be with someone like that I learnt to self respect myself but an innocent soon to be born child is also involved in this....so yeah..