I’m 30 weeks pregnant and split from my boyfriend (the father) now 4 weeks ago. He’s always had temper issues and fidelity issues, but a neighbor recently showed me evidence of him bringing women to my home when he was given permission to walk my dog. Long story short, he refused to leave and police had to be called. They weren’t any real help, and he bleached my clothes, stole my items, twisted up my pots and pans and stole a spare key.
This triggered a mental breakdown and I had to go to the hospital and now have a mental health care team I have to meet with. I had to file restraining orders on him and his side chicks harassing me. I have had my liscense plate number sent to me by random social media accounts and had to block over 200 profiles on Facebook because he posted me so his friends and family could come after me.
This mental stress had cause my doctor to prescribe me a week off of work as she was fearful my mental breakdown would negatively affect the pregnancy. My job put in my time as non paid pto. We’re currently working on getting that reversed, but it wasn’t discovered until after I was paid. My normal $2000/ every two week check turned into $500 pre taxes and deductible. I had spent money on replacing my items and getting home security thinking I was still getting my full check.
I ended up with -$953 in my account 5 days before rent was due. I don’t know how, but by the grace of God my I made enough to pay my rent on the first by selling a bunch of my items and doordashing. But now I’ve been -$521 dollars for the last 5 days while waiting for my next pay. Literally every little thing I make just disappears due to the negative balance. That check will probably be short my normal amount too because everything has been so draining on me that I’m still missing days from work because I’m too exhausted to even get up to brush my teeth. Thankfully my job has been really accommodating to me, so I haven’t lost it yet.
I’ve Been eating rice and beans for the last week since I have absolutely no money to buy groceries. Friends and family try to help, but they’re unfortunately more worried about me potentially getting back with my ex, and slightly brushing me off when I tell them I am mentally unwell right now and need help.
I’m sorry for the trauma dumping. I just feel like screaming and I need to hear from anyone who’s ever been in my shoes does it get better than this? I don’t even have any money, my child won’t have a father, and I just feel like the best thing for me to do right now is to crawl in a hole and die. I feel so helpless and stupid and don’t know how I’m going to give my kid a better life. Can anybody please tell me it will get better?