u/Aggravating_Yak_3163

Hey, I’m looking for a genuine connection that could potentially lead to a long-term relationship. I’m from Imus, Cavite, and I work in a hybrid setup — I go to Makati once a week for onsite work. I’m open to dates and meetups, just taking my shot here.

About me:

- 5'5", 60 kg

- Works in the IT field

- Introvert

- Homebody

- Likes walking

- VB sides

About you:

- Around the area or nearby

- Working

- Not dry kausap

- Has actual time for this

- Physically, I’m attracted to taller/bigger guys

If you’re interested, just hit me up 😉

Hi guys, gusto ko lang i-share and humingi ng advice.

I matched with this guy sa dating app recently. After match, halos 8 hours kami nagkausap straight since WFH naman kami pareho. Nag-decide pa kami mag-book ng Airbnb last weekend kasi we both wanted to know each other better (and yes, have sex na rin). During the staycation, sobrang nag-enjoy ako — not just sa physical part, pero sa deep talks namin. I felt seen and loved for the first time in a long while.

Pero come Tuesday, bigla na lang siyang nag-ghost. Nag-good morning siya then ignored the rest of my messages kahit nakikita kong online siya. Kinabukasan, I tried calling and messaging, wala pa rin. Eventually, I reached out sa friend niya para lang makakuha ng sagot. Doon ko lang nalaman na he decided na ayaw na niyang i-pursue anything kasi baka daw na-fuel lang ng sexual stuff yung connection namin, at ayaw niyang ma-abuse yung feelings ko.

Sabi ko naiintindihan ko, pero sana sinabi niya agad instead of leaving me hanging. Since then, I’ve been crying. This is actually the first time na umiyak ako dahil sa isang guy, and the first time I felt this kind of heartache. Ang sakit kasi I really thought we were moving forward. I might have over-romanticized the moment, pero para sa akin it was special.

So ayun, gusto ko lang itanong: paano ba hindi madaling ma-attach agad sa kausap, lalo na kapag nag-click kayo agad? Any tips on how to manage expectations and protect myself emotionally?