u/Aggravating_Poetry_7

Okay, so me (23f) and my boyfriend (22m) have been together a little over and year and half now. We were mostly just joking around about how I like a little bit of pain in the bedroom, and he called me a masochist and I joked back and called him a sadist, because I assumed he liked doing it too. But, then he said something along the lines of he only does it because he knows I like it, and that he just "kind of likes it". I don't know, but this really threw me off. I told him straight up I don't want him to do it anymore if he isn't having equal pleasure in it. I feel really weird about this, because my main thing is making sure my partner is enjoying themselves in the bedroom, and if he's not then I don't want him to have to do it. But, of course, that is what I enjoy. I'm really conflicted because obviously I love him so much, but logically I know sex and being satisfied with it is really important to a relationship. I want to believe I could be content with more vanilla sex, or him not being as rough, but I don't know if that is really true. I guess Im just worried that we are not sexually compatible, and figuring that out this late into the relationship is really scarring me. I've even considered asking for things to be rougher up until this point. We are literally moving in together. He doesn't seem worried, but I'm kind of spiraling. Would love some advice on this.